Hypervigilance is not anxiety. It is a threat adaptation. Your brain is doing exactly what it was trained to do. And treating hypervigilance like generalized anxiety is one of the most common reasons trauma symptoms persist for years longer than they need to. Many...
“Nothing really happened to me.” It’s one of the most common things I hear from women when they first start talking about their childhood. Sometimes they follow it with: “My parents did the best they could.” “I wasn’t...
If you can hold down a career, manage a household, maintain relationships, and get through your responsibilities every day, PTSD probably isn’t something you’ve considered. After all, people with PTSD are supposed to be falling apart, right? At least...
Many women tell me some version of the same thing: “I have really bad anxiety.” “I’m such an over-thinker.” “I worry about everything.” And some of them do have anxiety. But for many women, it’s something different....
Many women quietly believe this: If I do not have sex, the relationship will suffer. If I say no too often, he will pull away. If I want things to feel better between us, I should just go along. So they have sex not because they want to. They have sex to stabilize the...
Many women assume sexual healing means increasing desire. They try to want more. They try to feel more. They try to be more open. When hesitation shows up, they override it. When they want to stop, they push through. This approach often makes things worse. Sexual...
