Many women tell me some version of the same thing: “I have really bad anxiety.” “I’m such an over-thinker.” “I worry about everything.” And some of them do have anxiety. But for many women, it’s something different....
Many women quietly believe this: If I do not have sex, the relationship will suffer. If I say no too often, he will pull away. If I want things to feel better between us, I should just go along. So they have sex not because they want to. They have sex to stabilize the...
Many women assume sexual healing means increasing desire. They try to want more. They try to feel more. They try to be more open. When hesitation shows up, they override it. When they want to stop, they push through. This approach often makes things worse. Sexual...
Reclaiming Pleasure Requires Predictability And Control Many women try to reclaim pleasure by trying harder. They schedule date nights. They read advice. They tell themselves to relax. They push themselves to be more open. When that does not work, they assume...
Many women describe the same confusing experience. Their body is present during sex, but they are not fully there. They feel numb. Detached. Emotionally distant. Foggy. Sometimes they go through the motions. Sometimes they feel nothing at all. Sometimes they feel...
Many women describe themselves as anxious in relationships. They say they overthink texts. They replay conversations. They monitor tone. They feel a surge of fear when something feels “off.” They assume this means they are insecure or overly sensitive. Often, they are...
